As I write this article now, I have no idea if people still say "YOLO" or not. YOLO or You Only Live Once started out as a cool motto popularized by rapper Drake in his song, "The Motto" about living life to the fullest. The problem is, YOLO became an excuse for dumbasses to make stupid life choices because "Hey, you only live once." Instead of using the inspiring motto to work on positive attributes in their lives like painting a mural, climbing a mountain or swimming with dolphins, YOLO is now the battle cry for a whole generation of social media frenzy kids to go out and party every night, do drugs and have sex without proper protection.
The problem with YOLO, besides what I just mentioned is that I am fully aware that we only live once. This time NOW is the only time I'll have on this Earth. It can be scary to think about at times but with limited time of life, it makes it all the more precious. It's no longer socially acceptable to live in a way that just pleases me and doesn't outrage others, I have to seize every day like the last and give it my all. It's not enough to work towards being happy later on in life-I have to be happy now, not then, not soon but right now. The problem with living in the moment as I see it is that I'm never quite sure if I've enjoyed myself until whatever I am doing is over with. I'll give you an example, I once chaperoned a school field trip with my niece who was 5 or 6 at the time to Port Discovery in Baltimore, MD. A part from a long tiring day of running around chasing snort nose kids all day and trying to hook up with another's kid's mom, I wasn't really sure if I was enjoying myself until I got home and had the chance to think back on the day's events. I had fun, my niece thoroughly enjoyed herself but was I living in the moment at that time? Most likely not. The range of happiness and pleasure one gets by living in the moment is very small unless you're drunk or high, you're generally stuck in the moment. Can you tell if you're enjoying a moment in that moment? I can't most of the time until the moment is done with and then I just living in the past so I'm not really enjoying the moment.
We as humans are too intelligent a species to live in the moment. Animals do that everyday because they generally have no sense of time, responsibility and shame which allows them to live everyday like it's their last because it might be. A lion in the jungle doesn't work five days a week at a dead end soul crushing job to cut loose on the weekends doing whatever it is it loves to do only to return on Monday to start the routine over again. A tiger doesn't go to school for 12 plus years to get a degree for a dream job.
Honestly living in the moment is a horrible idea if you think about it, there's a reason we are supposed to stop and think about our actions before we do them because being too impulsive can leave to damaging consequences. Prisons and Graves are full of people who lived in the moment. Enjoy life on your terms even if it takes a while to get to where you'd like to be. Don't rush things.
Too short term a goal and the only thing you'll enjoy is an orgasm
Too long term a goal and it'll all be a plan to enjoy something you'll never be able to get to

If desegregation was such a good thing, why is the Black community worse today than it was during segregation? There has been a great deal of disconnect from how the Black community should be from the vision of our past generation to what has become of the Black community of today. The Black family was a lot more stable fourthy or fifty years ago and this was during a time when the conditions were much worse than today.
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In this day in age, I am baffled at how a major corporation like PepsiCo could green light a commercial that is stereotypical, insensitive and outright racist. Though the company has pulled the commercial and apologized (“We apologize for this video and take full responsibility. We have removed it from all Mountain Dew channels and Tyler is removing it from his channels as well,”), the damage has been done, the stereotypes have been reinforced, and the images displayed have been unjustifiably edged in the minds of many.
Question: I'm trying to better understand my partner's behavior. I feel that he is immature, has watched The Hangover too many times, doesn't always act his age and needs to grow up. It's not all the time but often enough that I am concerned. I know we are different and that men and women think and act differently but sometimes I am beside myself and past being annoyed.
Question: Now that it's summertime, it's naturally a time to wear cooler, comfortable and frankly lighter and smaller clothing. I don't think I've pushed the envelope too far with my summer wardrobe but my partner has recently began to take exception with some of my wardrobe choices. What has changed?
What’s urban – I think it’s a state of mind or a manner of thinking. It might describe where you come from but it is in no way a bad thing. Why therapy? It’s a dirty word to a lot of people. With a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology, I believe it’s anything that can help you solve a problem, gain perspective or elevate your thinking. If you’re curious, check back often, you might find the answers to some of the questions you have yet to ask. Welcome.
Question: For the first time in my adult life I am not in a relationship and I don’t feel comfortable doing things alone. I usually focus on my relationship, or supporting my partner’s goals. How can I begin to create a new life with me as a focus?
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Lil’ Wayne, Mr. ‘Please Say Da Baby,’ is at the epicenter of another war of words. Only this time, the rapper isn’t feuding with another MC or taunting NBA players. His latest target is actually a child; a dead one at that who came to be one of the defining faces of the civil rights struggle: Emmett Till.
“Beat that p*ssy up like Emmett Till.”