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Written by Shemiah WIlliams
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Urban Therapy: Taking Life’s Questions and Giving Real Answers from the Heart
Question: My partner and I generally have a good relationship and I think we have a future together. However, over time our disagreements have turned into arguments and our arguments are often hurtful. I think that going to counseling would help but I'm afraid my partner won't receive the suggestion well. Without intervention, I am afraid that our relationship won't survive.
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Written by Nikki True
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Oh what a tangled web we weave, when we try to deceive. In today's society we live by the more is better attitude. More food, more technology, and yes more relationships. For some men one is never enough. They may have a great woman at home but still have to see what else is out there. While I don't condone cheating I will say most men are too dumb to have a "I won't get caught" plan to cheat in the first place. I know you're reading this saying "Not me, my game is tight"...hmmm let me challenge that. I'm going to tell YOU why you're too dumb to cheat!
Some people are good at lying. They go on to become lawyers or do PR for the Kardashian family. You on the other hand can not get away with anything.
You're a horrible liar! You never have your story straight. You say you're going to go play some hoops with your guys and will be back around eight, you stroll in at 11 and when she asks "where have you been?", you say "UHHHH WELL". Stop! You're busted! Some people are good at lying. They go on to become lawyers or do PR for the Kardashian family. You on the other hand can not get away with anything. To cheat you must have a plan B, C and D. Yet your plan A has more holes in it than swiss cheese. And, you don't make sure everyone is in on your story. Nothing is more embarrassing than your girl calling your friends asking when the game was over and they say "what game"? Unless you can convince a jury that the glove doesn't fit, you shouldn't cheat.
You treat your jumpoff like a wife! In a cheating situation the other woman shouldn't have much say in what you do, where you go, or who is involved once you leave her sight. Yet many men treat their other woman like she is the only woman. When you don't define the roles within the affair things will get out of hand. Soon she is telling you not to sleep with your girl, what friends she hates, and then some. She might eventually call your girl, then you will be in a world of 'hella trouble! I'm not saying to mistreat your other woman, but you need to set boundaries and guidelines within the cheating. If she knows more than two of your friends you are not cut out for cheating. If she knows where you live you are horrible at cheating! You must keep your distance and certain feelings at bay. If you wear your heart on your sleeve with every woman you come in contact with then please go home to your girl and declare monogamy!
An exposed affair is one inbox message away....it's best you put that cheating energy into working out your relationship and making it stronger.Cheating isn't for the stupid, weak, or faint of heart. You have to strategically plan and perfectly execute your every move to make your game full proof. It's not like back in the day when men had whole families on the other side of town. Big Mama didn't have facebook and GPS to catch pops slipping. Now an exposed affair is one inbox message away. Add-on the 2 factors I mentioned and it's best you put that cheating energy into working out your relationship and making it stronger. I bet if you actually talked to your girl about the things that are making you want to stray she will try to work on them. So I say this in love...YOU'RE TOO STUPID TO CHEAT! STAY FAITHFUL!
Oh what a tangled web we weave, when we try to deceive. In today's society we live by the more is better attitude. More food, more technology, and yes more relationships. For some men one is never enough. They may have a great woman at home but still have to see what else is out there. While I don't condone cheating I will say most men are too dumb to have a "I won't get caught" plan in the first place. I know you're reading this saying "Not me, my game is tight"...hmmm let me challenge that. I'm going to tell YOU why you're too dumb to cheat!
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Written by Tameeca Diejuste
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Say “Bye Bye” to Google, Youtube, Twitter, Facebook , craigslist, and all the sites that you interact with your friends on, retain your social gossip from, and have fun with. SOPA the act to stop online piracy has many young people, and adults infuriated because its paying may mean the end to all those sites.
The act aims to limit, if not completely hault the access to sites that provide information they do not have the rights too. Although the act has good intentions, many believe that the way it is written will cause a downfall for not only site owners, but bloggers, rappers, singers, designers, and everyone else who uses the internet as a main source of income or publicity.
Congress believes that this act will help balance and control the amount of copyright infringement on the internet. People against the act think that this is just another way for the government to control us, as a whole. Many are going as far as saying that we no longer live in a democracy, and we no longer have a president. Those people are saying that if SOPA is passed, we can refer to our president as “King Obama.”
Since the announcement of the act , congress has lost a few supporters due to the very public protest of sites such as Google, and Wikipedia. What are your thoughts on the act?
Say “Bye Bye” to Google, Youtube, Twitter, Facebook , craigslist, and all the sites that you interact with your friends on, retain your social gossip from, and have fun with. SOPA the act to stop online piracy has many young people, and adults infuriated because its paying may mean the end to all those sites.
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Written by G. Anthony Knowles
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Love and lust are the two most misdiagnosed concepts we confront in our daily lives. This is because most people long for love yet end up intertwined in a heated lust filled liaison generously masking itself as a meaningful relationship. These misinformed decisions are made because oftentimes people easily accept acts of affection and interest as benign actions of pure innocence. The reality is that most gender responses towards you are not love preludes but instead they are lustful grabs at your attractive fruit. Given this reality, it's important to wait for someone's true intentions to unfold before you commit your heart, soul and most importantly, your body.
The wait for love is difficult because we are inundated with masses of literature; countless works of art and scores of music about love that it makes you long for it even more. However, if we carefully examine these works of art, we will see that most of them are actually lustful temptations aimed at enticing carnal senses.
At its core, love is mainly a spiritual and mental feeling. It’s a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. It creates a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep care like a parent to a child, a sister to a brother or kindred bond shared between true friends.
Only after an innocent connection is built between two people who are attracted to one another should they explore sexual relations as a beautiful next step. The key is that the sexual component to their relationship is not a requirement; but a natural progression if the partners’ involved feel inclined to pursue it. True love requires discipline and commitment and is never selfish or jealous. This love is focused on the growth, improvement and comfort of the person who is the object of your love.
On the other hand, lust is an intense sexual desire or appetite for another person. If you have someone that gives you an uncontrolled or illicit yearning to release your sexual cravings on them, you’re motivated by lust. Your lust drives a passionate and overmastering hunger to touch them, taste them and ultimately fuck them. Your lust for the person is about pleasure or delight not chemistry or openness. Your not concerned about their inner most thoughts and real life circumstance. In lust, you’re undisciplined. Your energy is focused on the person who is the object of your desire and they are a utility to be discarded once the purpose of self-satisfaction is fulfilled. They are a tool… and your desire for orgasm is the task at hand. If both participants feel the same way then by all means…enjoy yourselves. However, if one of you mistakes lust filled sexual connections as a tasty element of a loving meaningful relationship, then you are wrong…very wrong and someone will get hurt.
Can I have both? I want love and lust...in my relationship!
As you read this article, you are probably evaluating your relationship to assess the nature of it. It’s possible that you are angered at my description of (love & lust) if you find yourself in a group that does not align with the lie you’ve been living. However, the truth is, you can have it both ways. Love and lust are not like oil and water. They can mix perfectly and they should. The result is an explosive meaningful relationship with deep connections and countless orgasms.
How should I proceed?
Check your relationship and determine what you truly have. Once you accept the true nature of your relationship, only then can you decide which direction you want to pursue. If you determine that what you have is true love, then make him or her the object of your sexual impulses. You and your lover should explore every erotic and restricted area of your mind and vice versa. If that person is truly your soulmate they will respond with equal sexual vigor.
The key is to make sure that--that person deserves the freak that lies within you. Once they’ve proven themselves to be “in it” for the right reasons, then allow them “in it” for all the naughty reasons. A true soulmate will not judge you for your kinky turn-ons nor deny you access to theirs. That’s because true “partners” share with one another without fear of ridicule or judgment.
Together, you can now begin a loving and lust filled journey throughout life.
Happy Travels!
Love and lust are the two most misdiagnosed concepts we confront in our daily lives. This is because most people long for love yet end up intertwined in a heated lust filled liaison generously masking itself as a meaningful relationship. These misinformed decisions are made because oftentimes people easily accept acts of affection and interest as benign actions of pure innocence. The reality is that most gender responses towards you are not love preludes but instead they are lustful grabs at your attractive fruit. Given this reality, it's important to wait for someone's true intentions to unfold before you commit your heart, soul and most importantly, your body.
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Written by Kevin Benoit
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It’s still very early in the year but already there has been lots of talk about the albums people are looking forward to this year. However, given the state of the music industry, none of those albums are guaranteed for release this year... or ever. If you're looking for proof of that, look no further than last year's list of most anticipated albums. So instead of assuming that any of these projects will actually see the light of day, I decided to switch things up a bit on my list. I've included my list of most anticipated, but I've also included reasons why they probably won't come out this year--if ever.
Just give up on it already!:
Dr. Dre - Detox
Really though? It's over.
Too Early To Tell:
Blue Ivy Carter - Seriously though, with all the buzz she created in the last week alone, her parents could release an album of her cries over Kanye beats and I'm pretty sure it would go Platinum. They already have the single, "Glory" and as long as the album features a couple of appearance from B, no one will dare complain. But B and Hov probably don't want to share the limelight, not even with their first born. Still, don't be surprised if they name their next album after her.
Kendrick Lamar - I'm going on record to say he is to 2012 what Jay Electronica was to 2011. Precisely. He'll probably get a deal and sign to another artist and he'll probably be on the shelf until who knows when. Sorry Kendrick.
Lupe Fiasco & Pharrell -
I guess Kanye is too busy making millions with Jay-z to be bothered with the CRS project. So Lupe and Pharrell have decided to join forces to do it on their own. Problem here is that they're still on different labels. A mixtape maybe, album, hmm I doubt it.
Ludacris - Ludaversal
Ludacris has been talking about this project for close to 3 years. If he's been working as hard on it as he claims than its going to be a resurgence of the Ludacris that topped charts. I hope for his sake that it is all that and more. But it seems I'm the only that noticed Luda dissed Drake and Big Sean before Common did. If people don't care for a beef, than they probably won't care for your album either.
Busta Rhymes -
Did anyone else notice the year that Busta Rhymes had in 2011??? The signing to Cash Money was the best thing he could do to end his year, except that it was also the worst thing he could do. Unless Universal just let's Birdman throw everything out there, I'm not sure there will be enough room for this release this year. But if it does come out, Busta won't disappoint.
Slaughterhouse -
The Shady deal is done. The hype has been built. Rumors of new members have been denied. Time for a new album right? I sure hope so. There's too much potential there to have it all go to waste without a classic caliber release. But will Eminem let it fly? If it comes down to him or Slaughterhouse I know who he'll pick.
Nicki Minaj - Pink Friday: Roman Reloaded
Although her debut single, "Roman In Moscow" hasn't really picked up, I would think she's still on schedule for a Valentine's Day release because she gets the benefit of a performance at this year's Grammy Awards. Now that the hype is gone I look forward to seeing what Nicki does to propel this album. If she messes up, this may be the end of the road for her.
Rick Ross - God Forgives, I Don't
Many are disappointed that they wasn't released last year, but guess Mr. Rozay was too busy building his Maybach Music brand. It will be interesting to see what he raps about on this project since he's put out so much music in the last couple of years. He's close to needing a 3 year hiatus to rejuvenate himself, but if this next project is the best stuff of his career, he'll be ok.
Jay-Z & Kanye - Watch The Throne 2
If you think they aren't going to capitalize on all the money they made last year then you're kidding yourself. There will be a part 2, and people will flock to the stores and the shows once again.
T.I. -
Is he still King? With a lot to prove and a dwindling fanbase T.I. needs to release the album of the year, point blank. He knows how to create a buzz around his music and Atlantic Records needs him to have success so I expect him to be their focus. If timed correctly, this will be the biggest release of the year.
(And Why They'll Probably Get Pushed Back)
It’s still very early in the year but already there has been lots of talk about the albums people are looking forward to this year. However, given the state of the music industry, none of those albums are guaranteed for release this year... or ever. If you're looking for proof of that, look no further than last year's list of most anticipated albums. So instead of assuming that any of these projects will actually see the light of day, I decided to switch things up a bit on my list. I've included my list of most anticipated, but I've also included reasons why they probably won't come out this year--if ever.
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Spotlight Feature
Sometimes, it must fall upon the journalist to ensure that what they are hearing in an interview is clear enough that they can truthfully and accurately present their subject's words as quotations. This may require asking for an answer repeatedly, admitting you missed something that could have been important, or actively picking and choosing which quotes should be completely captured in a form of verbal triage. Other times, it may simply require asking the subject to slow down because your cell phone's speaker is woefully inadequate. Such was the case with Kirko Bangz, and regrettably, I did not follow the advice laid out above. The following is what I can transcribe from my conversation with the Houston hopeful, whose Drake on promethazine approach has been reverberating within the scene.
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