"Isn't there anyone out there who can tell me what Christmas is all about?" That's a question good ol' Charlie Brown asks in the TV classic, A Charlie Brown Christmas. Which of us hasn't asked that question before? Our Christmas holidays get cluttered with more and more stuff as life goes on. Every year gets more hectic and we have more and do more. At the same time, we wonder if there shouldn't be more to Christmas. We are often left wondering with Charlie Brown, "Isn't there anyone out there who can tell me what Christmas is all about?" I recently meet with married couple, Kevin & Karen Byrd who took a simplistic stance to answering Charlie Brown's question.
Leaving an Unhealthy Relationship.
You remember lying awake at 2 o’clock in the morning, staring out into the darkness while you reflected on your life up to that point. As you lay there restless, you replayed the poor choices you made to stay in your relationship. With each difficult memory, you struggled to find the peace of mind to go back to sleep. You were tormented at the inability to move on from a bad situation even though you know it was slowly killing your spirit.
Black love is an amazing thing! Seeing any two people in love AND happy is often a rare sighting, which makes it even more noteworthy when you stumble upon a couple that you can tell is going to work. It's not always easy to tell from a distance with the false sense of reality that some people can put on display, but then there are times when love is so apparent, it's hard not to notice it. The genuine love of Kevin Byrd and Karen Pierre-Charles is that type of love.
At some point during or after your divorce, you will eventually pick yourself up and move forward with connecting to the outside world. Those first steps are difficult and the prospect of dating again could be daunting. Interestingly, statistics show that 75 percent of divorced people get married again within five years. This is because at heart, most of us are still true believers in the idea of love. We inherently believe that we can "get it right" the second time. When you finally decide to pursue a new relationship, it’s important that you are ready to begin this next phase of your life.
Chivalry is defined as “the sum of the ideal qualifications of a knight, including courtesy, generosity, valor, and dexterity in arms.” Another definition is “a gallant or distinguished gentleman.” The final definition, one most relatable to women looking for a relationship in 2013 is “something that's dead and should stay dead”. These definitions were taken from three separate sources including traditional dictionaries and a newer source to our culture, the Urban Dictionary. I wouldn’t say that any one definition is more correct that the other because truth can be found in all three definitions.