Chivalry is defined as “the sum of the ideal qualifications of a knight, including courtesy, generosity, valor, and dexterity in arms.” Another definition is “a gallant or distinguished gentleman.” The final definition, one most relatable to women looking for a relationship in 2013 is “something that's dead and should stay dead”. These definitions were taken from three separate sources including traditional dictionaries and a newer source to our culture, the Urban Dictionary. I wouldn’t say that any one definition is more correct that the other because truth can be found in all three definitions.
Gentlemen and Ladies too, in your quest for that higher bush and sweeter berry, don’t overlook the fresh low-lying fruit that’s within your reach. We live in a culture where average is not a desired attribute. There is the hunt for that new bombshell, the need and desire to be with someone smarter, prettier and more successful than the girl next door or our best friend’s sister. We are all familiar with the saying “The grass looks greener on the other side of the fence”, which seems to be a fundamental belief that can surely lead one to a false perception of those we deem familiar. You know that old saying about a prophet never being realized at home.
Love is a tricky thing, especially for women. We have been raised to believe that there are certain rules to follow, that it is in fact a game that if we play our cards right we end up with an everlasting love. And if not, we are left at the table forced to fold our hand. We are told that some of the feelings and emotions we go through should not be spoken and are never validated as being a part of the process. In turn, it forces us to shut down and shut off the idea of ever finding love, for fear of being thrown into someone’s crazy house because we OBVIOUSLY must be insane to try to rationalize our behavior when it comes to love.
It’s Not So Bad After All
Every February 14th, across the United States and in other places around the world, couples get dressed up (or undressed) to enjoy a day of showering one another with gifts, candy, flowers and romance. It's a day to reconnect or connect for the first time with someone you love, care about or are interested in. This February 14th, some couples will get engaged, get married, hook up, have sex for the first time or have sex for the one-thousandth time. It all depends on your personal relationship status.
I would stress that it is probably best to just simply avoid your exes all together if you can but unless you’ve moved out to the Amazon Jungles, you’re probably going to run into them eventually so it’s best to be ready for when the unmentionable will happen. Let’s assume you’re single. You want to talk with an ex or some of your exes in hopes of knowing what went wrong so you don’t repeat any past mistakes. Maybe you unexpectedly ran into an ex and things happen to end on a sour note. Maybe an ex went out of their way to contact you for whatever reason; I am here to help you cope with coming into contact with your exes. I say “exes” only to assume that there’s more than one. If you are reading this and you only have one ex then you know where you went wrong. Exes implies more than one, if you’ve been dumped or they dumped you, running into an ex is never easy. A lot of mixed emotions can come up and knowing how to handle it properly will ultimately bring you closer to peace and closure. A lot of this is basic psychology with some personal experiences. Use your best judgment when the situation arrives.